At openletter.com.ng, we pride ourselves on pushing boundaries that matter, conversations that challenge taboos, and empowering people with knowledge. Today, we step into one of society’s most misunderstood yet most essential topics: sex and sexual well-being.
In a society flooded with misinformation, shame, and silence, one voice is cutting through the noise with clarity, confidence, and compassion. That’s voice belongs to a remarkably creative sex therapist who is not just trained to treat but born to teach. She bridges the gap between intimacy blocks and bedroom blues, transforming cultural myths into clinical facts. This expert is not afraid to go where others will not. Khoemizona Babalola of Openletter opens this refreshingly honest and eye-opening conversation with Arinola Kolawole, where we explore the real language of intimacy, the psychology of pleasure, and the healing power of sexual self-awareness. Buckle up for liberation and education at its finest! This is not your everyday interview.´
“…… matters such as sex and intimacy should not be vocal topics”
Arinola, a certified counsellor
Your name and what you do ma’am
My name is Oyeyemi Arinola Kolawole. I am certified counselor/social worker and addiction recovery specialist
Following records, why don’t you like being called a sexpreneur?
Because intimacy and sex consulting is not the only thing I do. It would be erroneous to define my entire professional practice by limiting my competencies to sex alone
As a counselor and sex therapist, how readily do you think that people speak up about their sexual inadequacies and reservations and how does this affect relationships?
Sadly, a lot of people keep mute until matters have degenerated out of hand and things have gotten out of threshold. This not only makes relationships toxic but also enduring and uninteresting
Have you experienced castigation from any religious sect because of your peculiar practice?
Indeed, this phenomenon occurs frequently. Some religious people believe that matters such as sex and intimacy should not be vocal topics.
Talking about addiction, do you think it’s Nigerian to accept the need for therapy on addiction and how often do you counsel addicts?
We typically delay getting help until matters go out of hand. Most persons who have come for addiction recovery did not take such decisions until it has become a cancer to their existence and person as well as affecting their environment and loved ones.
Please define your job as a sex therapist.
As a sex therapist, I counsel, coach, educate, create awareness and campaigns on sex related issues as well as help people fit their sex puzzles to get a blissful big picture
Given your attractive appearance, don’t men often feign interest in seeking sex therapy from you as a means of gaining closeness?
People will always find means to get what they want. Yes, men do but my work ethic has clear boundaries and my personality also holds strong values. I do not mix business with pleasure, nor do I lose focus on my professional objectives and core values.
Can one then conclude that your line of profession comes with expected harassment?
There is no work without some measure of exposure. I have been able to conduct myself in best practices and standards such that it is difficult to cross the line. I am not one to be messed with!
Do we have much sex therapist around here like in order climes and how lucrative is the job?
Well, everyone that sells sex enhancement products calls themselves a sex therapist this days but therapy goes beyond selling kayamata or opa enyin. Therapy is a systematic and scientific approach to solving deep-rooted issues. It is an emerging industry in this clime and one that is worth it at the end. So yes, I believe it will be lucrative in the long run
On a lighter note, do counsellors need therapy too?
Yes o, counselors have their own counselors. It is necessary for balance as you pick up different energies from clients and all. If care is not taken, you may become depressed or act out some of the conditions you are working on.
Would you say your pretty look is also a requirement to be a sex therapist?
Absolutely not, I am wonderfully and beautifully made. This one na follow come (laughs)
Your advice for women with conditions that require sex therapy.
Get help; don’t keep quiet and allow it rub you of your essence, happiness, and fulfillment. There is no challenge without solution but the timeliness of help can avert more negative consequences.
To be continued!
What you just read is not a mere interview; it is a revelation. In a society where we suffer in silence behind closed doors, this creative sex therapy offers knowledge, empathy and undeniable truth.
Openletter.com.ng proudly amplifies voices like this that dares to educate where others hide in silence, and we treat sexuality not as shame bur as sacred. Don’t take it alone, try and carry forward the new insights from this post to renew your mind and share with others to have same experience to enjoy the real evolution, which starts from within.
Watch out for part 2!
