At openletter.com.ng, we pride ourselves on pushing boundaries that matter, conversation that challenge taboos, and empower people with knowledge. Today, we step into one of society’s most misunderstood yet most essential topics: sex and sexual well-being.
In a society flooded with misinformation, shame, and silence, one voice is cutting through the noise with clarity, confidence, and compassion. That’s voice belongs to a remarkably creative sex therapist who is not just trained to treat, but born to teach. From intimacy blocks to bedroom blues, from cultural myths to clinical facts. This experts is not afraid to go where others will not.
In this refreshingly honest and eye-opening conversation, opened by Khoemizona Babalola of Openletter with Arinola Kolawole, we explore the real language of intimacy, psychology of pleasure and the healing power of sexual self-awareness. Buckle up for liberation, and education at its finest! This is not your everyday interview. 
Your name and what you do ma’am
My name is Oyeyemi Arinola Kolawole, I am certified counselor /social worker and addiction recovery specialist
Following records, why don’t you like being called a sexpreneur?
Because intimacy and sex consulting is not the only thing I do. It would be erroneous to define my entire professional practice by limiting my competencies to sex alone
As a counsellor and sex therapist, how readily do you think that people speak up about their sexual inadequacies and reservations and how does this affect relationship?
Sadly, a lot of people keep mute until matters have degenerated out of hands and things gotten out of threshold. This not only makes relationships toxic but also enduring and uninteresting
Have you experienced castigation from any religious sect because of your peculiar practice?
Yes, a lot of times. Some religious people belief that matters such as sex and intimacy should not be vocal topics.
Talking about addiction, do you think it’s Nigerian to accept need for therapy on addiction and how often do you counsel addicts?
We typically delay getting help until matters go out of hand. Most persons who have come for addiction recovery did not take such decisions until it has become a cancer to their existence and person as well as affecting their environment and loved ones.
Please, define your job as a sex therapist.
As a sex therapist, I counsel, coach, educate, create awareness and campaigns on sex related issues as well as help people fit their sex puzzles to get a blissful big picture
Seeing you’re a pretty lady, don’t men just pretend to want to come to you for sex therapy just to get close to you?
People will always find means to get what they want. Yes men do but my work ethics has clear boundaries and my personality also holds strong values. I do not mix business with pleasure neither lose focus of my professional objectives and core values.
Can one then conclude that your line of profession comes with expected harassment?
There is no work without some measure of exposure. I have been able to conduct myself in best practice and standards such that it is difficult to cross the line. I am not one to be messed with!
Do we have much sex therapist around here like in order climes and how lucrative is the job?
Well, everyone that sells sex enhancement products calls themselves sex therapist this days but therapy goes beyond selling kayamata or opa enyin. Therapy is a systematic and scientific approach to solving deep routed issues. It is an emerging industry in this clime and one that is worth it at the end. So yes I believe it will be lucrative in the long run
On a lighter note, do counsellors need therapy too?
Yes o, counsellors have their own counsellors. It is necessary for balance as you pick up different energies from clients and all. If care is not taken you may become depressed or act out some of the conditions you are working on.
