This isn’t just a bold statement. It’s a much-needed spark in the quiet war raging in many African bedrooms where passion is often silenced, intimacy becomes routine, and emotional distance grows unchecked. Bishop Funke Felix-Adejumo, respected clergywoman and co-founder of Agape Christian Ministries, has blown the lid off a long-suppressed truth: Sex is not a sin; silence is.
In a refreshing and unapologetic video spread all over social media, Bishop Felix-Adejumo urged women to reclaim their sexual confidence and embrace intimacy as a sacred, enjoyable, and essential part of marriage. She called out cultural myths and conservative mindsets that have unfairly painted sexual expression as dirty or shameful for women especially wives.
She made it clear that it is about time the silence on the subject be disrupted. She said and I quote “African culture has told you that a woman should not show that she enjoys sex, otherwise they will call her a prostitute”. How many marriages are suffering because of this lie? In many African homes, women are raised to be reserved, discreet, and silent about sex even with their husbands. They’re trained to “endure” the act rather than enjoy it. But Bishop Funke Felix-Adejumo is flipping that script now. Her message is clear: Sex is not a chore; it is a celebration. 
“I like sex. If I don’t, how will I have children?”
– Bishop Funke Felix-Adejumo
Mutual pleasure is not a luxury; it’s a necessity. Bishop Funke shouted it out for all women and all that cared to listen: “Tell yourself, sex is good.” I want my husband. And when you’re having sex with your husband, don’t pretend to be a “missionary.” Talk and moan; sex is good. Some hypocrites say she is vulgar. This is not vulgarity; this is vulnerability.
The Bishop is advocating for truthful, unashamed passion between married couples. Pretending to be uninterested, passive, or emotionally disconnected during intimacy doesn’t make a woman holy; it only builds walls between partners.
She’s calling for real communication, real feedback, and real fire in the bedroom. Because when the bedroom dies, the bond weakens, and when the bond weakens, the marriage cracks and eventually collapses.
Let the married know that sex is holy, fun, and worth celebrating. Women should not be spectators on the field of pleasure; they are co-players. “Tickle your husband; touch him when he’s making love to you. Once he completes the task, let him know he did a commendable job. So said Bishop Funke.
Let’s be honest, men also crave emotional affirmation. Sex isn’t just physical release, I tell you; it is validation, affection, and reassurance. A man wants to know he pleases his wife, just as awife deserves to feel desired and respected. These are not sinful desires, instead, they are divine connectors.
Bishop Felix-Adejumo’s candour is an invitation to spouses everywhere to stop performing and start participating. Don’t let a destructive baton that was passed on under the disguise of religion or culture kill your connection.
She added “You cannot believe that African mentality. Let’s change it. The devil is using it to destroy marriages because that’s the highest level of intimacy.” It’s time to confront and shatter the religious and cultural shackles that falsely equate in-marital pleasure with promiscuity. Enjoying your spouse is not immoral; it is God-ordained. Shutting down desires or pretending not to care is not in any way close to holiness. Don’t fall for such deception.
Married adults, especially women, be hereby encouraged to embrace joy, not just duty. You deserve it. It is about time you stopped whispering about your desires to yourselves in fear, Start communicating them in love.
Bishop Funke Felix-Adejumo’s message is not just provocative, it’s prophetic and new chapter opener for spouses. She is not encouraging rebellion. She is only calling for revival in homes, hearts and in bedrooms.
So here’s the point, clear and simple: Sex in marriage should be exciting, expressive, and emotionally fulfilling for both husband and wife. Women should stop pretending and start participating. Men should affirm, reassure, and reciprocate affection. Cultural shame has no place in a covenant relationship. Open and sincere conversations create stronger, sexier marriages.
On a final note, sex is sacred but silence is sabotage. Let’s be honest with ourselves, we have whispered long enough. The time has come to reclaim intimacy as something holy, happy, and healing. So, go ahead, tickle him, talk to her, turn on the music, and turn off the myths. You’re not being worldly. You’re being wedded.
As Bishop Felix-Adejumo put it: “I like sex.” I also say that sex is good. Now to all married people, it’s okay to say it too. Nobody should die in silence. Talk about it. Enjoy it. Own it. And watch your marriage and health bloom.
Share this with every married couple you care about. Let’s rewrite the African love story, one honest conversation at a time.
